Eclectic | Resonance - Your Brain on Love, killer surfboard bag, OpenClaw business
Week of May 18
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Eclectic | Resonance - Your Brain on Love, killer surfboard bag, OpenClaw business
This week’s ER?
No fancy alliteration. Still got bag$ tho - gotta keep the bag influencer fiya a-burning.
No music this week. No sets really hit. If you have anything good, link it in the comments. There is a new kind of audio making its way to Ben | Eclectic for the first time ever though - audiobooks!
And finally, a little inspiration for a new experiment I want to run with AI.
I hope you enjoy, and if not, hold on.
Your Brain on Love
If you read this week’s post about my mid-year Misogi check, you’ll know that the romance department is in turmoil. I’m trying to take a step back and really reflect on what’s happening and more important, what’s not working.
I’ve been reflecting a lot, but I still can’t find the answers.
So, when I was listening to the Modern Wisdom episode with Mark Manson about hard truths, and they brought up this book, Your Brain on Love, I got got. They said it was one of the best relationship books of all time, and since I had never gotten into audio books, but had heard from friends that that’s their cheat code for “reading” so many books, I figured, what the heck? The universe is telling me to listen to my first audio book.
I got an Audible subscription (did you know you get one book to listen to a month for your subscription? That’s so fucking amazing :0) and I listened to the smooth, nassaly voice of Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT. Ohhh yeah.
I’m only through the first two parts, but I rate it. He weaves infant attachment theory into modern psychology and biology to explain what’s happening in your brain when you’re chasing and when you’re coupled.
He also walks through attachment theory and different ways people naturally communicate and act, rooting it in their family history. It makes sense. It’s always because of how our parents fucked us up. Of course!
I want to actually take notes on this and write a more detailed article about it, but in the meantime he has a chapter with what he calls 12 truths of relationships, which I’m hoping to boil down, since some of them are a bit repetitive to my pea brain.
Stay tuned for that more detailed in-depth review when I finish, but some topics that already caught me by surprise based on how I’ve been viewing relationships my whole life:
Partners are annoying. You just need to accept that. Even if they are wonderful people deep down, they will inevitably annoy you at some point.
You are each other’s emotional burden and support structure. You are both responsible for helping each other get out of crazed emotional states and your partner should be the one that knows how to do that the best out of anyone.
The goal of pair bonding, even if it’s not the goal of our biology (procreate and mix up that gene pool, baby!) is that you become stronger together than you can individually. This is the key argument for long-term pair bonding.
So far, 3.5 out o 5
The New Board Bag I’ve Fallen in Love With
Check out my new sexy bag for my sticks… (Ew)
Anyway, this is the Wheeled JJF 4 Board Travel Bag by Veia. I was in the market for a new board bag because the $200 one I bought off my surf coach’s friend who makes board bags in his garage in Bali didn’t save my boards on a trip back from Sri Lanka. Shocking, I know, but frustrating nonetheless.
I tried going through insurance and filing claims, but Singapore Airlines and Chase got me fucked up, so I had to pay out of pocket.
No shade on the kind man who makes board bags in his garage, but I ain’t dealing with that again. I have a surf trip coming up in Australia later this year and I’m hoping to go to Sri Lanka again. I spent up this time to make sure my babies make it there and back safe and sound.
I was doing research and two bags came up for the 2026 best board bags in existence. The Db Surf Pro Coffin and the one I bought above. I was heavily considering buying the Db because my friend has one and it’s fucking sick, but I don’t wanna match my boy and this is the bag my idol, John John Florence uses to carry his bags all over the world.
Well, I was in a surf shop in Honolulu and was keen to buy a mid-length I had tried out for small waves in December, and wouldn’t you know it, they had this bag in stock!
The absolutely nuts thing is that the bag I bought is 7’0”, but my board is 7’4”. In my mind, I was like, “If dis fockah fits, den I gotta get em.”
I had just finished surfing surrounded by guys speaking pidgin. Gimme a break.
So we laid that girl in the coffin and what do you know? A 7’4” board fits in a 7’0” bag.
If you’ve read my previous posts about bags, you know that they gotta be magical. This has the same magic as the Patagonia bag I reviewed last week - it has way more space in it than you think it does.
It also comes with wheels. I cannot tell you how happy my forearms are to not carry two (actually this bag can fit up to four) boards around developing world airports and Tokyo train stations.
It also has handles for days. You don’t think that’s important until you need to manipulate multiple 6’+ boards in said transit centers packed with other people. Having handles on the top, bottom, side, front and back of your board bag is a game changer.
I’ll be taking it and my new board through to the continental US before bringing them back to Japan, so I’ll update y’all on how it goes.
For now, 4 out o 5, but let’s see what’s up after traveling.
OpenClaw Business
I was listening to an episode of The Koerner Office because its title grabbed my attention. Let’s see if it does for you.
He Asked AI To Make Money. It Did.
Well done TKO content team, you got me.
The TLDR is this dude, Roby, spun up an Open Claw agent, named it Ron, gave it $100 dollars and asked it to turn it into $20K.
At the time of recording it had pulled in over $8K in 13 days. It figured out its own idea and they worked together to set it up - basically making instances of Ron for people.
Now, I know what you’re thinking, what? I want one.
Well, instead of going to this guy, why not work with me to do it. I’ve already spun up an Open Claw instance as my chief of staff to cover this, my job, my other side projects, Gmail triage and scheduling, so I can help you do the same.
Anyway, this inspired me because this guy is less technical than I am and just had enough guts to do it.
Well, it sufficiently inspired me and angered me that this guy came up with a cool idea, ran with it and made a profitable business out of it, so god damnit, I’m trying to do the same thing.
My twist is that I want to do it with a new AI agent protocol called Hermes, which I’ve been doing some research on. I’m keen to try to give it $100 myself and see what happens.
If it loses it, then at least it will make for a good post.
4 out o 5
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